Depending on how we use social networks, they can either benefit or hinder our personal ministry.  I’ve worked in ministry for more than 25 years but I haven’t used it as a way to form a lot of close personal friendships.  Part of this is because of my personality type – I am an introvert who is task driven.  This means I am very comfortable working by myself.  Give me a task and I just go to work to get it done.

My peers and acquaintances in ministry see me as no nonsense and competent.  No warm fuzzies, just to the point and focused.

How Facebook Helps Me

Introverts like me, who are task driven are not outgoing or overly friendly.  In ministry that can be a definite negative when it comes to the members of the church.  It doesn’t mean we don’t like people, it just means our focus is a little different.  This is where Facebook has been very helpful to me.  In addition to being a task driven introvert, I love gadgets.  There are two things I can do for hours:  1) work on my computer and 2) read a good book.

Interaction With Others

Facebook allows me to interact with our ministry leaders and members from the privacy of my home.  I can sit in my pajamas with my computer in my lap and see what’s going on in the lives of my fellow church members.  I can wish them a happy birthday, tell them I enjoyed the song they sang or the message they preached.  Sometimes, my comments are as simple as I like your new hair cut.  Occasionally I will send a private message of a personal nature to encourage someone who’s having difficulty.  This kind of message is sent via Facebook because I don’t have their phone number.  Since Sunday is a work day for me, sometimes I can’t just stand around and have personal conversations.

Sharing Of My Personal Life

Facebook also allows me to share a little bit about who I am.  Not the person you see at church who is in work mode, but the person who has a life and personality away from the church.

• I am a caregiver for my 82 year old god-sister who has dementia.  That in itself can be exhausting, so sometimes I make a comment about how tired I am or that I was up most of the night with Gladys.  I recently posted a video that shows what it takes for us to get Gladys out of the car and into the house (20 feet, six minutes).  I got a lot of positive feedback from sharing the video.
• My cats, Cocoa and Lexie have been shared in photos on Facebook.  People can’t believe I have cats.
• On my FB Info page, I’ve freely shared my favorite music, TV shows, movies and books
• Grandchildren’s accomplishments have been posted to share with others
• My adult daughters, grandchildren and son-in-law send me silly messages via Facebook.  In return, they get a silly response.  The members get to share in our off-beat sense of humor.
• Every now and then I have to stay at home on Sunday because I don’t have anyone to stay with Gladys.  When that happens I send out a little update to Twitter and Facebook.  One of the things it does is keeps people informed so they don’t have to ask my husband, “Where is Sister Valerie?”  I’m always amazed at how many people actually see the update before they go to church.

My Blogs.  In addition to this blog, I have two others:  A Caregives Journal and Nothing In Particular.  These two blogs give a lot of insight into my life and how I think.  I usually share a link to new blog posts on Facebook and Twitter.  Some of my Facebook friends read them, some don’t.  The point is that I put it out there and give them access.

While these things may seem insignificant, for people who only see me at church or at the grocery store, it give them some insight into who I am outside of being the pastor’s assistant and the guest services manager.

How Facebook, Twitter and Blogs Can Hinder Our Personal Ministry

Until now, I’ve listed several things that I like about social media and how they can help us.  Now I want to talk about how social networks can hinder us.

Never take social networks for granted.  Think before you share.  I’ve read several blogs that share social networking etiquette.  But beyond social network etiquette, we must use social network common sense.  I learned a long time ago that common sense is not so common.  That said . . .

What Not To Share

• Personal information like phone numbers, addresses, complete birth dates.  Unless your Twitter page is private and you have only approved people you know well on Facebook, you should keep this information off your social network pages.  Some people list their e-mail, I choose not to.  That’s what private/direct messages are for.
• Personal/private information about church staff or other members
• Personal/intimate information about your spouse.  For example, “Bill and I had a fight last night, he is such an idiot.” or “Bill doesn’t spend enough time with the kids.”  Your Facebook and Twitter friends don’t need to know that.
• Letting people know when you are going on vacation.  Tell them after you get back.
• Provocative photos.  Nuff said
• Information that shows lack of integrity – “I called in sick today to go to the Falcon’s game.”  You can get fired for that or miss an opportunity for another job because that info is out.  In addition, some of your fellow church members may see that and label you as dishonest.

The bottom line

Use social networks to connect with your members and colleagues, but don’t share too much.  I know a lot of pastors strive to be transparent, but I think it is more prudent to be translucent.  Let the people see enough but not everything.  Think of it like a see-through dress.  If I wear the dress without a slip, you will see way too much and focus on what you shouldn’t have seen in the first place.  On the other hand, if I wear the dress with an appropriate undergarment, then you will actually see the the dress.

Be prudent with what you share on social networks.  Once it’s out there, it’s out there.  You can’t get it back and you don’t know who will eventually see it because information can be copied, forwarded and printed.

Facebook and Twitter Haters

They’re not really haters but some people think social networking is a waste of time.  There is a lot of nonsense out there that you don’t have to deal with if you set up your account properly.  Social networks are great for gathering and sharing information.  It’s not for everyone but for many, it’s a way of life.  Use it wisely.

There is so much more that can be said that isn’t covered here.  What can you add?

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Excerpt from The Princess Principle by Richard Reising (Beyond Relevance Blog)

For church leaders, there are three princesses that you might have to learn to handle–each of them are dealt with in a very different way.
For one, many of those in your community are princesses by nature. Many live privileged lives and have high standards. They expect a certain level of communication and perhaps are finicky about how things are done. In order to get on their radar, they require you to speak their language and show that you value what they value. As a minister, these are those we pursue. He expects us to be like wise fishermen–understanding their often “princess-like” nature. After all, we have to remember that the nature of man is to “look on the outside” (1 Sam 16:7). Considering that they might look at things differently can only help us connect with them more effectively. (more . . . )

Excerpt from Five Principles I Have Learned About Leadership by Brad Post (Brad Post’s Blogs)

Influence is Not about A Position

Many people have the assumption that you need to have a title in order to be a leader.  Early in my career I thought that once I reached a manager, or an area training director or a district manager then people would listen to me.  I quickly realized that this is not the case at all.  Leadership is all about influence.  In my many years of managing numerous different types of people I now understand that to get people to do what you ask them to do does not always come down to you being the boss.  It more comes down to influencing them why they need to do something.  It does not always consist of if they don’t do what you ask they might loose their job.  But again the WHY they need to do it.  The why is the whole factor in the influence. (more . . . )

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A few weeks ago I attended the BUG Conference along with my pastor and student pastor.  It was a very insightful  conference that covered Facebook, Twitter, blogging and church marketing.  It quickly became apparent that 20 & 30 year olds are among the most effective users of social networking.  Most of the presenters were younger than my children.

The Demographics

The majority of the attendees were white males, age 20-30.  There was a small percentage of people over 45, a small percentage of women and an even smaller percentage of people of color.  In fact, of the 200+ participants, I counted 8 people of color.  What these numbers said to me, is that more women, people of color and folks over 45 need to get up to speed using social networking to benefit their ministries.

Technology Changes Daily

Technology can be intimidating because it changes so quickly.  Just a few years ago, social networking was all abuzz with teenagers and college students who wanted to keep up with each other.  Then a strange thing happened – those students became today’s entrepreneurs, business owners and leaders and all of a sudden faxed and paper resumes became a thing of the past.  These young leaders and ministers were using Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, Linkedin and Technorati to network, promote their businesses and find jobs.

Two great things about these services is 1) they are free and 2) you make friends.  If you have a computer, know how to create a username and password, that’s half the battle.  Social networking is not a fad.   In one form or another, it’s here to stay.  It’s time to get up to speed!  However, take some time to learn the strategies and etiquette involved in these networks.

What’s Next

Read articles

• Michael Martine of Remarkablogger is one of my blogging friends.  He has written a wonderful article that gives an inside look at Twitter:  The Ultimate Beginner’s Guide to Marketing Your Business on Twitter.  These same practices apply to ministry.
• Twitip is another blog that I read.  They conducted a poll that is worth looking at to get some insight on how people are using twitter:  Poll Results:  Why Do You Tweet?

Take a Class or Workshop

• Find a workshop or conference
• Bring someone into your church to teach a class or workshop
• Study how other people on Facebook or Twitter use these tools

There is no reason to let your budget keep you from learning to use these tools.  Most of what I’ve learned came from a few blogs that I read on a regular basis, and observing how other people in ministry, like Shaun King, use Facebook and Twitter.  In fact, I found Shaun King through StumbleUpon.  My current goal is to learn how to be strategic with social networking.

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• announcing the new ministry he started at the beginning of the year (Courageous Church)
• inviting people to attend services at the church (over 600 attended the first service)
• recruiting volunteers to help with the church
• getting people to loan him equipment for a speaking engagement
• donations for their new office space
• finding a contractor for some small jobs at the church

Since the recent upheaval around the Iran elections, blogging and Twitter have received a lot of attention and we see how they can be used in many different situations.

If you are interested in learning to use social networking for ministry or business, you might want to check out the BUG Conference, a one day marketing clinic at the Highlands Church in Birmingham, Alabama.  I have already registered and am looking forward to learning a lot about using social networking more efficiently and effectively.

Maybe I’ll see you there.

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The pastor, himself, wrote a blog post about his resignation and the affair.  His church also posted a copy of an e-mail on their web site that was sent to church members.  All of this says a lot about the power of the Internet and social networking.  Tweeters and bloggers alike, were speaking of the pastor as if they know him.  Most said they were praying for him and his family.  Some were also praying for the woman involved.

If you’re looking for the name of the pastor or a link to his blog, you won’t find it here.  My purpose is not to cast aspersions upon the pastor or the other woman.  My purpose is to emphasize that we no longer live in a bubble and we can’t hide our mistakes or our sins.  This church is in North Georgia in a small town that most people have never heard of.  The pastor involved planted this church five years ago and it has grown to over 1,000 members.  It is the kind of contemporary church that you would not expect to see in a town that is just this side of being called rural.  This pastor had a lot of influence in his community and across the nation.  All because of the Internet and Social Networking.

Christians know that God sees everything we do.  There was a time when we could hide our faults, sins and propensities from each other and thought we were safe.  Eventually our issues might be found out but more than likely, they wouldn’t go any further than our community.  That isn’t the case today.  The Bible tells us that to whom much is given much is expected (Luke 12:48).  To that passage of scripture you might add, “to whom much is given, much will be exposed.”

As we go forward in ministry, we should keep in mind that information (accurate or not) is just a mouse click away.  What we do today, may be posted all over the world within a matter of minutes or hours.  Let’s pray for all of our pastors, ministry leaders, their families and their places of worship.  As my pastor reminded us on Sunday, we are the church – we take it everywhere we go.

A final note – this pastor made a mistake that affects him, his family and his church.  Regardless of his sins, this pastor’s ministry helped bring many people to Christ.  Let’s not penalize his family, friends and church; and let us not negate his positive accomplishments in ministry.

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